Attend to Them Before They Attend to You

Attend to Them Before They Attend to You

Listening to, and fixing, relationship noise. Too often, people come to me at the point of relationship crisis—someone's threatened divorce, there's been an affair, they have lots of conflict or they've "fallen out of love." Just the other day, a husband said to me, "How could she have all of a sudden stopped loving me?"

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Humor: Real-to-Life Wedding Vow

Humor: Real-to-Life Wedding Vow

She's Having a Babyis actually a pretty great movie—funny with a solid message. Kevin Bacon's character, Jake, is clearly in over his head and overwhelmed by adjusting to the commitment of married life. However, as is true in a healthy marriage, few are fully ready, but like Jake grow into maturity. Looking back I realize I had no clue what I was doing. But I had commitment and a willingness to learn and to figure it out. Fortunately, that's often enough.

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MARRIAGE MASTERY Tip 6: From MLK, Jr: See the Other's Point of View

MARRIAGE MASTERY Tip 6: From MLK, Jr: See the Other's Point of View

Consider these words from Martin Luther King, Jr. (1967) the next time you engage in conflict with your partner and you perceive them as the enemy:

Here is the true meaning and value of compassion and nonviolence...
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