Vid Interview: Marriage Therapy as Divorce Prevention
/Jonathan Sherman, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist from MarriageEnvy.Com speaks with Utah Family Law TV regarding marriage therapy as divorce prevention.
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Jonathan Sherman, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist from MarriageEnvy.Com speaks with Utah Family Law TV regarding marriage therapy as divorce prevention.
Read MoreToo often we base our behaviors on our emotions: so if we feel loving to our partner we act loving, but if we feel upset we act upset. And while that makes sense, it also makes for relationships that are only as stable as our emotions... which means not very. Instead...
Read MoreA fun little experiment that actually demonstrates some positive relationship lessons.
Read MorePeople come wanting a solution to a train wreck of a marriage: Save our marriage and transform it into a truly GREAT relationship. "Certainly. That's what I'm here for and I love to help people do... Let's get cracking...". And then they proceed to tell me how it should be constructed based on myths, what they heard, opinions and preferences that are contrary to how healthy relationships actually function; in what ridiculously short time frame it should occur; with minimal to no actual study, practice and effort on their part because "really it shouldn't be this hard" nor "take this long." And then if they don't accomplish their goals in those parameters they quit therapy saying, "Well, we tried. Counseling just doesn't work." And they stay discouraged and stuck.
Read MoreListening to, and fixing, relationship noise. Too often, people come to me at the point of relationship crisis—someone's threatened divorce, there's been an affair, they have lots of conflict or they've "fallen out of love." Just the other day, a husband said to me, "How could she have all of a sudden stopped loving me?"
Read MoreI am ignorant. So are you. Face it. The reality is if I take every single thing I know, big and small, silly and profound, and compare it to all that there is to know in this vast universe then the only conclusion I can arrive at is that my knowledge is infinitesimally small and that I am VASTLY ignorant. I'm okay with that. It keeps my ego grounded and my mind open to learning. Fortunately, there is a solution to ignorance...
Fed up with picking up after her husband's dirty dishes, tired feeling taken for granted and hating "nagging" my client decided to put into practice two principles she's been learning in the GREAT Relationship Work we've been doing together: Problem Ownership and True Assertiveness.
Read MoreFriends, I am still astounded (even though I should know better) when I hear some men use the "argument", "Because I'm the man" to get their way and to exert control over their partners. That this still continues in this day and age is really amazing... and pathetic. Yet it does still and it takes all my professional training to keep from... Well, I won't say. Fortunately, there are many men who have long ago rejected that worn-out oppressive model.
Read More"Well, Jonathan, that's easier said than done." This is a common phrase and objection I hear from people when we talk about creating a GREAT relationship overall and/or specific strategies towards that goal. My response is...
Read MoreAs a marriage and family therapist, sex therapy is a common part of my practice. Often, people (men) worry that they aren't having as much sex as they used to when they were first married and that must mean there is something wrong with their marriage. This often leads to conflict in the marriage.
Read MoreFor years I have said that relationships will no longer tolerate sloppiness nor carelessness. Cheating is short-lived enjoyment that destroys too much. It's like burning down a cathedral just to fry an egg. It's time to "execute cheating" and put an end to cheating. I know we can't eradicate cheating from the world, but YOU can choose. It's time to take a stand and PLEDGE TO HONOR YOUR RELATIONSHIP. Honor used to mean something. It still can. Be a man of honor. Be a woman of honor. There is glory in honor. Let's bring honor back. Listen to this song and like this page.
Read MoreRather than learning to settle for "meh" relationships, I have taught for years the need for creating phenomenally GREAT relationships. My tag lines for my practice have been as follows…
Read MoreI had the following conversation with a potential client recently. They were interested in marriage and stepfamily counseling and saw the need for doing something very different. However, when it came to the fee they were a bit taken aback by the perceived cost, "That's a lot more than I expected." I responded, in part, as follows...
Read MoreConsider these words from Martin Luther King, Jr. (1967) the next time you engage in conflict with your partner and you perceive them as the enemy:
Here is the true meaning and value of compassion and nonviolence...Read More
I love this. I really do. Once a good friend of mine, in response to his wife (who was good friends with my wife) getting on his case because "Jonathan does this" and "Jonathan does that..." in reference to what I do for my wife and children. He jokingly/seriously said to me one day, "Man, you're making me look bad." I laughted and said, "No. I'm making myself look good. You're making yourself look bad."
Read MoreI recently attended one of the several bridal shows in the community. There was aisle after aisle of gorgeous displays with many excited young brides accompanied by their mothers, fiancés, sisters and friends. Every product and service you could imagine was available to help these wonderful couples prepare for a truly memorable wedding. In the midst of all this joy I wondered why there weren’t any services to help couples ensure that their marriages would last well beyond their wedding day to their golden anniversary.
Read MoreWhat better wedding gift to give each other than to commit to enhancing your marriage by learning skills that will continue throughout the years to reinforce your love for each other? Couples want to give the best gifts: the gifts of knowledge, commitment, appreciation, communication and time together. However, as many a parent and grandparent are aware, many newly married couples do not have the skills and tools to take the love that initially led to their decision to marry into the long-haul daily practice of creating, maintaining and improving a lasting marriage.
Read MoreI had an interesting discussion with a good friend the other night. His short temper was taking its toll on him, his wife and children. He had decided he was going to go see a therapist to help him learn to manage his stress and anger more constructively. We got talking about the cost of therapy....
Read MoreCreating GREATness in Relationships™ through 1. Marriage Mastery, 2. Parent Training, and 3. Self-Mastery.
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